Wednesday, December 22, 2010

What does "losing your virginity" mean to you?

An interesting question for women: what does it mean to lose your virginity?

Firstly, we have to know the definition of virginity. Virginity today has far more sophisticated definitions than before. “Never having had sexual intercourse” may be “the new definition” of virginity nowadays. It’s no longer “cleanliness” or “purity”, but “engaging in a lot of different kinds of sexual activities without intercourse”. Someone who has oral sex, anal intercourse, or other kinds of sex is still considered as a technical virgin. Many girls usually take this easy way out by using the loophole to get the pleasure they desire. In this way, the girls usually want to stay a virgin until they’re married or losing virginity before marriage is against their religion and strictly taboo.

People may define “virginity” differently, but we still have to revisit what it means to stay a virgin. In the new millennium, losing virginity is not something new among teens. Sex has no age limit. Sexual images in the media such as TV or the Internet are blamed for promoting teen sex. Condoms, birth control pills, or other kinds of contraceptive pills become preventive options for teens. And abortion becomes a way out of the undesirable pregnancy.

I know it’s not easy for girls to keep their virginity because of peer pressure and their boyfriends. Most guys today have already had sex. Sex is very important in a relationship for men and they will look for it elsewhere if they no longer get it from their girlfriends or wives. The ugly truth is: there are three things that every man needs – support, loyalty, and “The Cookie”. Some girls are pressured into losing their virginity because of “The Cookie”. Men. Need. Sex. They just love it.

Nevertheless, we (girls) cannot blame the media, our friends or boyfriends for losing our virginity. At the end of the day, it’s all up to you. One thing you have to remember is: love is a matter of trust and sex is a matter of lust. It’s your body, it’s your life and it should be your decision whether to have sex or not. If you’re not ready for it, tell your boyfriend and don’t let him pressure you into doing something you do not want to do. But if you are ready to give it away, make sure that you will do it with the right person at the right time.

First time sex is always going to be unforgettable. You cannot get your virginity back once it’s gone, so you must wait until you’re truly ready and fully trust the one you want to do it with.

Stay safe! :)

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